20 things to discuss before marriage

So, you’ve found your person: the person. You’re deeply, undeniably in love; it’s beyond easy to imagine your future together; and, yeah, you’re starting to think about an engagement, a wedding, and all that fun stuff.

As exciting as this time is, it’s also important to make sure you’re aligned on what, exactly, that shared future looks like.

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In other words, you’ll need to have some big conversations—and ask some crucial questions.

“I’m a firm believer in discussing as much as possible prior to getting engaged,” says Carla Marie Manly, PhD, a clinical psychologist, the host of the Imperfect Love podcast, and the author of Date Smart.

“The process of getting to know a partner deeply and truly is essential for forming a healthy foundation. And while going over important topics—finances, children, sex, romance, religion, values, and priorities—partners are able to address any red flag issues that arise.”

Chances are, you won’t automatically agree on all of these topics.

And that’s okay, adds